Resolving Problems With Bad Neighbours

Feb 25, 2017


There are few things more annoying than a bad relationship with your neighbour. You know, when they’re out shovelling their driveway and you wait until they’re finished before you leave your house so you don’t have to make eye contact? Chances are, everyone has been there at some point or another, whether you lent them your extension ladder and have yet to get it back, or you ‘split’ the cost of your privacy fence, or your cat uses their garden as a litter box.

We’ve all experienced it, but it’s about making things right, so here are few steps you can take to ensure there are no more of those uncomfortable situations.

Take the high road

Communicate the problem with them in a non-hostile manner, and see if there is any middle ground or win-win situation that you can both be happy with.

If it’s something minor and you’re not the talkative type, do something kind as a showing of friendship. Perhaps mow their front lawn for them or even just the boulevard - they’ll notice and then the ball will be in their court to give a simple thank you or get a conversation going.

Having an amicable relationship is a lot easier if you’re willing take a step towards mending sore spots. Remember, you don’t have to be best friends with them, just being friendly is key – especially when you live in the suburbs!

Are you the only one?

If the situation with your neighbour is a little more difficult, chances are other people are noticing it as well. Ask around and see if anyone else is having problems with them. If they are then it may be a good idea to have them speak to the problem also – but be sure to not confront him/her as a group, you don’t want them to think you are teaming up and being bullies. If multiple people speak to them privately, they may realize their faults and change.

Shared Walls

Condos, town homes, and semi-detached houses are all but free from inconsiderate neighbours. Every condo has at least one vivacious tenant that stomps around upstairs, plays guitar, or has their surround sound rumbling your walls through the night.

Among the different types of wall sharing homes, noise is by far the biggest complaint. It’s typically a condominium manager’s duty to ensure quiet enjoyment is possible and to stop any noise made by residents, their guests, or their pets.

Third Party Mediation

There exists such a service, where two parties are able to vent their grievances before a mediator. The purpose of mediation is for a neutral third party to help disputants come to a compromise on their own. This neutral third party listens to both cases and depending on their role will make a recommendation.

Last Resorts

If things go seriously awry, and all other informal options have been exhausted, then it may be time to consider legal action.There is likely no returning from this to have a good relationship so weigh the pros and cons before taking this next step.

Final Thoughts

A bad neighbour shouldn’t ruin your day, so don’t let it. Your home is for you to relax, unwind, and spend time with family and friends – not to stew about your neighbour’s daily annoyances. Try to be understanding, put yourself in their shoes, and always have an open mind. In the end, your relationship is worth saving, so whatever you can do to keep it friendly is in everyone’s best interest.

Category: February 2017

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